I’m so thankful for Troy, he’s such a good match for me. He has been there with me & for me, no matter what over the years. I know there were many times that he felt like giving up on me or giving up because of something one of the kids had done that broke his heart, but he never did.

When we got together, I was in pretty good shape. I may have been a little overweight, but I wasn’t fat & I wasn’t unhealthy, I couldn’t be, I walked everywhere I wanted to go & was busy chasing two kids under 3 around. I am not that healthy, curvy girl anymore, but he loves me just the same & supports me. He never lets me condemn myself or call myself fat. He stands by me no matter what method I decide I’m going to try for losing the extra baggage & often does it right beside me.

We just started a new exercise program today, and even though I couldn’t even finish the first set out of 3, he was right there encouraging me & telling me he was proud of me for what I did & shouldn’t feel bad for not finishing it. I’ll be starting Weight Watchers Online again on Friday, and he’s behind me 100% & will be no matter how many times I have to walk this path.

He makes me laugh, he spends time with me, we read together, camp together & really enjoy spending time with each other. Last night, I was feeling down because we found out we couldn’t afford to do something I had really wanted to do & so he took me out to the movies & we saw Star Trek. We had a fantastic time together, as always & it brought my spirits right back up & strengthened my resolve at the same time.

I wish everyone could be as lucky as I am.

I don’t often talk about how or when Troy & I met, I just mention him, as if you all know him as well as I do.

I met him on March 31, 1991. I had just married Erin & Rhi’s spem donor &two weeks before & we were having a birthday party for my god-daughter, Katie. He & two of his friends had been invited over by another friend to play D & D with us that night. I knew as soon as he walked in my front door that I had just married the wrong man& that Mr. Right had just walked in. There wasn’t anything that I could do about it, I was a married woman with kids, after all, but it didn’t change the way I felt & didn’t stop us from becoming very good & close friends, pretty quickly.

During the next few months, things became strained between myself & my best friend, Kathy & I couldn’t figure out what in the world I had done. She claimed that she had a crush on Troy & didn’t know what to do about it. She was married with kids, too & so I told her that an illicit affair with her was the last thing Troy needed (hae was in the middle of an ugly divorce). I later found out that she was in the middle of an affair with my own husband & he told me all about it on his birthday. He honestly expected me to share him with her & my feeling was he wasn’t even worth my own time let alone wonderful enough that anyone would be willing to share him. I kicked him out & told him I was finished with him. Later that night, I admitted to Troy how I felt about him & he, after a few hours, admitted that he had feelings for me too. (he wasn’t hesitant, he wanted to make sure I wasn’t after a rebound) We’ve been together ever since.

We’ll never have the money to buy New York Yankees tickets (we’d both prefer Rockies tickets anyway) or  the exciting vacations that we often dream about, but the important things are that we have loved each other through thivk & thin, sickness,  health, poverty & good times. He raised my kids like they were his own & many people don’t even know they aren’t his biological children.He has taken care of me, I have taken care of him. Yes, we argue, everyone does, eventually, but he’s my very best friend & nothing can or will tear us apart, we can’t make it without each other,.